Quotes by Harriet Lerner

Harriet Lerner

Although it’s not useful to drown in despair, it’s also not useful to keep a ‘positive attitude’ when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

Attitude

Mean

Real

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change.

Connections

Growth

Political

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Intimate Relationships

Party

Sacrifice

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.

Anger

Anger Management

Listening

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

Anger

Life

Self

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others. . . .If, however, we do not use our anger to define ourselves clearly in every important relationship we are in–and manage our feelings as they arise–no one else will assume this responsibility for us.

Anger

Responsibility

Self

Anger is neither legitimate nor illegitimate, meaningful nor pointless. Anger simply is. To ask, “Is my anger legitimate?” is similar to asking, “Do I have the right to be thirsty? After all, I just had a glass of water fifteen minutes ago. Surely my thirst is not legitimate. And besides, what’s the point of getting thirsty when I can’t get anything to drink now, anyway?” Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel–and certainly our anger is no exception.

Anger

Glasses

Meaningful

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

Anxiety

Calm

Contagious

As long as we can feel hope, there is hope.

Feels

Hope

Long

As many have observed, it is easy to tell a lie, but it is almost impossible to tell only one.

Easy

Impossible

Lying

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Quotes by Harriet Lerner

Harriet Lerner

Although it’s not useful to drown in despair, it’s also not useful to keep a ‘positive attitude’ when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change.

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

As long as we can feel hope, there is hope.

As many have observed, it is easy to tell a lie, but it is almost impossible to tell only one.

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